Some kids are pre-dispositioned to be kind. Other kids- like my kids– need to be explicitly taught how to be kind. They need to be shown what kindness looks like, what it sounds like, and what it feels like.
Why? Because young kids are wired to be self-centered. Research shows their brains are not mature enough to regulate “selfish impulses, even when they know better.”
So it takes time. And it takes repetition. And it also takes patience to help our children learn to think of others, to place themselves in someone else’s shoes, and to choose to be helpful.